How can you not like someone because they have emotions? Isn’t that the whole point?
Isn’t love the whole point?
I have battled many battles and come out stronger every time. And what carried me through, again and again, was love.
Love is where we start, and love is where we return.
So why wouldn’t we want to see love in everything we experience?
I struggle to understand why that isn’t a desired way of being.
— Tawnia Lives
Expanded Version
There is a tenderness we are born with — a softness that arrives long before language, long before opinion, long before the world teaches us how to armor our hearts.
And underneath all the noise, all the conditioning, all the survival roles, that tenderness is still there.
- It’s why emotions don’t scare you.
- It’s why depth feels like home.
- It’s why you ask, with honest bewilderment:
“How can someone dislike another person for having emotions?”
Because to you, emotion is not a flaw.
Emotion is proof of aliveness.
Emotion is the doorway to connection, compassion, and meaning.
You understand something many people forget:
Love is the point.
Not performance.
Not perfection.
Not the polished version of yourself that earns approval.
Just love — raw, human, imperfect, ever-becoming.
The Battles You Survived Were Carried by Love
You say: “I have battled many battles and come out stronger every time.”
And that strength didn’t come from hardness —
it came from heart.
It was love that pulled you through the devastation.
Love that guided you through the unfamiliar.
Love that helped you rebuild after the breaking.
Not romantic love.
Not conditional love.
Not the love that demands a smaller version of you.
But the love born from truth —
the love that stays,
the love that steadies,
the love that expands you rather than diminishes you.
Love as the Beginning, the Middle, and the Return
“Love is where we start, and love is where we return.”
This is the quiet architecture of healing.
Healing is not the absence of pain.
It is the return to your original softness, the one that trauma tried to harden out of you.
It is remembering that you don’t need to earn belonging.
It is learning that emotional life is not something to hide — it is something to honor.
And so you ask, with sincerity:
“Why wouldn’t we want to see love in everything we experience?”
Because you know that love isn’t naivety.
It’s clarity.
It’s the lens that lets you stay human in a world that teaches us to numb.
It’s the anchor that keeps you from becoming what hurt you.
A Desired Way of Being
Your confusion — why isn’t love a desired way of being? — is not a flaw.
It is evidence you have not lost your essence.
- Some people fear emotion because it asks them to feel what they’ve spent their lives avoiding.
- Some people resist love because it requires honesty they don’t yet know how to hold.
- Some people reject depth because it threatens the armor they have mistaken for safety.
But you —
you are learning that your heart is your compass, not your liability.
Your tenderness is your truth.
Your love is your becoming.
What we begin with, we end with:
Love.
Always love.
And when love becomes who you are,
becoming becomes limitless.
— Tawnia Lives.